Is he becoming posessive?

Me & my bf have been together for 9mths he had a bad experience with his ex cheating on him several times and is very insecure. we now live together and he always says he wants to be my number 1, when i work he stays at home and i encourage him to go out with his mates but he would rather go out with me or sit in and wait for me, when i want to go out with my mates he gets moody and we end up arguing so i dont end up going out, he gets jealous when i go on the internet and facebook and says im pestering people the same whn i get a txt. he asks who's texting me and complains i never reply to his txts as much as other peoples. He's also started saying i never laugh and smile with him like i do my friends and it makes me feel guilty. when i tell him i love him he says i dont and when we argue he loses his temper and hits things. Im not alowed to drink much because he says he doesnt like who i am when im drunk and he always goes on about how he dislikes my friends and should socialise with him and his mates. I am not allowed to wear skirts or low tops because he says they are slutty and prefers me to go out in jeans, he also wants a baby and refuses to wear a comdom when we have . Is he becoming posessive or is this natural in a relationship?